Next week is "Teacher Appreciation Week" - May 3-7. One of my favorite teachers is my husband's Aunt Mary. She is the most classic example of the teacher - organized, sweet, patient, loves children... always seems put together and in control. Each year at our family Christmas "gift" exchange (the white elephant type), you always wonder who is going to receive Mary's box of recycled teacher gifts. There is always something with a bright red apple, something that says "#1 teacher", usually some type of lotion that is not pleasant to smell and of course the random object with a cartoon character on it. While I am sure that the children happily gave their teacher these gifts, Mary is left with no purpose for these pointless gifts but save them up and to pass them on to us and get the yearly laugh. Friday, April 30, 2010
High5 Friday: Great Ideas for Teacher Appreciation Week
Next week is "Teacher Appreciation Week" - May 3-7. One of my favorite teachers is my husband's Aunt Mary. She is the most classic example of the teacher - organized, sweet, patient, loves children... always seems put together and in control. Each year at our family Christmas "gift" exchange (the white elephant type), you always wonder who is going to receive Mary's box of recycled teacher gifts. There is always something with a bright red apple, something that says "#1 teacher", usually some type of lotion that is not pleasant to smell and of course the random object with a cartoon character on it. While I am sure that the children happily gave their teacher these gifts, Mary is left with no purpose for these pointless gifts but save them up and to pass them on to us and get the yearly laugh. Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Workshop Wednesday => The Five Love Languages of Children - Part #4

- That you respect his feelings
- That you realize that he has a brain and is able to form opinions
- That you expect him to take responsibility for his own behavior
- The punishment must fit the crime since children have such a wrong sense of fairness
- The punishment has to be appropriate for each particular child
- Punishment is often administered inconsistently according to the punisher's mood at the time. When you are feeling good, you tend to be more lenient than when you have had a bad day
- Punishment when used primarily as a means of discipline provokes needless anger, and causes the child to develop passive-aggressive attitudes and behaviors.
- If you have to punish the child, give her a conscious expression of love in her primary love language.
- Positive Reinforcement (giving a reward good behavior)
- Negative Reinforcement (taking something away)
- Punishment (removing the child/isolation)
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
[Quick Tip Tuesday] Sand Bag

Wednesday, April 21, 2010
High5 Friday: Preparing for INA Conference!
Last year was my first Professional Nanny conference experience. I had found INA earlier in the year after doing some online research. I had thought about conference, but was in the middle of house hunting, and not sure that I could do both. I kept my options open, but it wasn't looking to good - as we were under contract on a fixer-upper. Turns out that the fixer-upper that I had fallen in love went to auction and weren't able to make the deal we felt comfortable with. The day it all fell through, I said to my disappointed self - "FINE then, I am going to Dallas!" The next day I asked off, registered, bought my ticket, and became an INA member. THERE! I had to make some good out of this situation. I jumped in a little unsure of what was ahead of me. My husband was on board, he is so supportive of anything that will bring growth personal, spiritual, or professional. I wondered what my employers would think when I tell them that I had actually asked off for a "Nanny Conference". Though they are very generous, I felt it unfair to ask for financial help from them. To my surprise - after getting on the International Nanny Association website, they offered to reimburse me for the conference fee and were so excited about the opportunity. Workshop Wednesday => The Five Love Languages of Children - Part #3

- Be generous with praise when they do well
- Make up a story with them as the hero
- Describe what you like about them
- Speak softly
- Leave notes
- Say "I love you"
- Share a personal story with them
- Honor them at a special meal
- Ask their advice
- Share your treasures with them
- Wrap gifts for them, even projects, or rocks!
- Give them space to display their things
- Protect their property from others
- Respect their property
- Express gratitude for their every gift - even funny stories
- Allow them to hold on to their writings
- Serve them breakfast in bed
- Fix their broken projects or toys
- Ask them for help with a task
- Give them regular chores and express gratitude for their completion
- Pay attention to their bedroom environment, decorating and upgrading will be appreciated
- Teach them to help with jobs around the room
- Help them with assignments
- Teach them to cook.
- Get down on their eye level and listen
- If talking to a child and someone interrupts, say "Ill talk with you after I finish talking with _______ "
- Plan mom-dates and dad-dates
- Make time to chat after school, for walks and drives, shopping excursions
- Serve make-believe 'tea parties'
- Work with them on a project together
- Read together and tell stories
- Give "high fives" and pats on the back
- Take time to tousle their hair
- Give hugs as needed
- Give piggybacks
- Hold hands while walking
- Sit close while reading
- Share cuddles, snuggles and kisses
- Stay "handy"
- Work side by side
- Give cuddly toys to play with or when sad
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
[Quick Tip Tuesday] Bathroom Diaper Station


Friday, April 16, 2010
High5 Friday: Connecting Through Online Communities

- Free Courses Deal for Week of the Young Child
- Nanny Support Groups - Community Service, Spring 2010
- Poll: How Much Do Spend on Gifts for Your Charges
- Child Car Seats...(rear-facing vs. forward-facing)
- How Should Nannies Dress for Work?
- Unpaid Vacation
- Resume Help
- Quick Tips
- Playdate: Sunrock Farms
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Workshop Wednesday => The Five Love Languages of Children - Part #2

- Makes comments like, "Thanks for helping", "I love you", or "You're the best daddy."
- Enthusiastic greetings and farewells
- Loves to talk to you on the phone
- Keen to share news and hear yours
- Fishes for a compliment
- Might be jealous of others being praised more than her
- Gives compliments
- Will write cards and letters, and reads the ones she gets closely
- Takes an interest in other people's gifts
- Makes little gifts for others
- May be critical of others lack of giving
- Will wrap and present presents carefully
- Will be hurt if their gift isn't appreciated
- Will value and display gifts
- Always knows what she want for her birthday or Christmas
- Remembers and keep presents forever, even though used infrequently
- Give hints about presents
- Will be profoundly grieved if they loose a possession
- Helps without being asked - just a nice thing to do
- May be very disappointed if you fail to do something for him that he expected you to do
- May be short on words but long on actions and activity
- Will appreciate assistance
- Loves to do jobs on a list
- Will expect appreciation
- Will tell you what she has done
- Love you to join in his activities
- Will be disappointed when others fail to help or participate
- Will love going out with you
- Will want you to play with you
- Will perform for an audience
- May annoy to get a response, including stirring up trouble with others
- Likes doing things together
- Enjoys talking to you
- Engages you with her eyes
- May try and monopolize you
- May compete for friendship
- Could feign sickness to get attention
- May be less of a "self-starter", requiring motivation from others
- May create crisis to gain intervention
- Enjoy cuddling, often
- Likes playing rough and tumble games
- Moody if hug-starved
- Enjoys a massage or back scratch
- Jumps into bed with you
- Will take your hand even when she doesn't have to
- May be inappropriate in his touching
- Likes to cuddle soft toys
- May lean on you
- Will play physically close
- May fiddle with laces, hair, etc.
- Will prefer sitting on your lap to sitting next to you in an armchair
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
[Quick Tip Tuesday] The UN-Messy Paint


Monday, April 12, 2010
Meet Nanny Amy!
1. What is your current Nanny Position?
I am currently a full-time nanny for a wonderful family in the Northern Kentucky area. The D Family! I care for 3 high energy girls. J, the oldest, just turned 9 years old this month and is in the third grade. She loves school and recently was invited to join the High Achievers Reading Club. She also plays basketball, sings in the choir, and was in the school play. A, the middle, is 6 years old and started Kindergarten this year. She has made the most improvement since I have been with the family. She is very outgoing and talkative. When she gets in trouble at school she tells me "it's just because I like to talk and the teacher doesn't like that." P, the youngest, is 4 years old and will start kindergarten this fall. She is a big cuddle bug, loves arts and crafts, and is one of the funniest little girls I know. Some of the things she says you would never expect to come from a 4 year olds mouth. My schedule is probably not as routine as most nannies. I always work 3 days a week including 1 night from 6:30pm to 8:30am and 2 days from 6:30am to 8:30pm. However, the days change from week to week and sometimes a work day for me may land on a weekend. The days I spend with the girls are long ones. On the days I work, right before bedtime is usually the first time the girls see their mother. My responsibilities are all related to the care of the girls. I make sure the older girls are up and ready for school, provide transportation to and from school as well as an occasional after-school activity, and provide a fun day for P, the youngest. During the day, I plan activities such as preschool work, art projects, play-time at the mall, story-time at the library, and when warmer weather comes around trips to the park and swimming. Oh, and of course more play-dates now that I have become apart of the CincyNanny Community. I also plan and prepare meals- breakfast, lunch, and dinner, help with homework, and give the girls baths. My housekeeping responsibilities are limited to making sure the girls and I pick up after ourselves. Occasionally I will run the dishwasher, wipe down the counters, and straighten up, but the primary focus of my job is always the girls.

2. How/Why did you decide to become a Nanny?
I didn't chose to be a nanny; the profession chose me and I learned I truly love working with children. I started caring for children first through babysitting jobs mostly for family, friends, and neighbors. Then around age 11 and for the next few years I worked for a local church's nursery caring for babies and younger children during service hours. This is where I met my first, nonrelation and no previous friendship, family. An actual real job. I remember being so excited! During my freshmen and sophmore years of high school, twice a week and most weekends, I cared for the family's 5 year old daughter, 3 year old son, and 6 month old baby girl. I was much more then just the babysitter. I remember doing my homework in the extra bedroom and hearing the kids outside the door waiting for me to finish up so we could play. I shared family dinners and celebrated many milestones. I trully became apart of the family. My last 2 years of high school I worked at a child care / preschool center. I started by floating around from room to room from one age group to another till I finally found the preschool room. I love working with preschoolers! By age 22 the nagging of my family to do something besides "wipe noses and butts" finally pressured me into taking a break from child care and get an office job. Yes I had normal hours, decent pay, and insurance, but something was missing. I was bored and the passion for my job was gone. Luckily the office job was a temp position ending around the same time that a family in my neighborhood was looking for an infant nanny. Of course I jumped all over it falling in love with Baby B. Even though the position didn't turn out to be long-term it lead me to find my current family that I have been with for almost 2 years.
3. Why are you passionate about working with children?
I am naturally a maternal person- I love children. I also love to teach and children are great students. They are always learning and very curious. I enjoy teaching a child something new, watching them try over and over again, and then finally seeing their face light up when they accomplish it. For example- A-the middle, finally learned how to snap her fingers. For weeks straight all I heard was snap snap snap... Miss Amy look what I can do (for the 10th time) snap snap snap. The other day, P-the youngest, blew her first bubble with bubble gum. It only lasted for a half of a second before her face was covered in gum, but it was worth seeing her face light up with excitment and then later hear her re-tell the story to her mom. Simple things to us, but mean the world to children. I am also excited how enthused the older sister, J, is about reading and learning; she loves school. I am also passionate about working with children, because they give me a new point of view on things. Children are so open minded, more understanding and forgiving then adults, and no matter how bad things seem the girls always give me a fresh look.
4. What is a misconception in your peers and/or family about the Nanny profession?
My family is always asking me "are you still babysitting for that family?" Sometimes I just want to scream- I am NOT a babysitter! I am a nanny; educated, experienced, and professional. I work along side the parents with a goal of raising physically, emotionally, and intellectually stable children. I feel as I am apart of the family, because I am, and have a genuine love for the children. I have also been told, many times, that I need to get a real job. In my opinion, providing care and education for children affects the future, so yes I do have a real job. Not to mention rewarding knowing that I am making a difference. The families I work for depend on me and trust me with their most precious gifts.
5. In what areas do you currently feel challenged?
I seem to always be challenged with one specific issue. I am a perfectinist. I like things organized and routined. Schedules, charts, lists, and post-it notes are my best friend. Structure is good for all children, but lets be honest things are not ever perfect with children. Which sometimes drives me crazy. With my current situation I am currently challenged with change. I have been stressed for the past few weeks thinking after this summer my current position was going to end. The youngest that I care for is going to be 5 years old this summer and start kindergarten this coming fall. I assumed the family would no longer need my services and stressed over bringing the issue up to the mother. I recently came up with the courage to speak with her and yes she would still need me, but there is a very good chance my hours will be reduced. It really wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. She was very understanding and told me to do what was best for me. However, I am still faced with the challenge of making a decision that could lead to a lot of change in my life. I really love the girls, the whole family, and the mother makes me feel very comfortable. However, I am not sure if I can only work a few hours a day or a week. I have three options. One to stay with this family and let whatever happens happens. Two find a new family and move on. And three, which would be a really big change, my grandmother invited me to move to Florida living with her. I would still need a new job/family, but I would be away from home, couldn't visit my current family, and wouldn't have the support of Cincy Nanny. Change, I am just not very good at it.
6. What about CincyNanny has been a benefit to you?
I am so happy to have found the CincyNanny Community. I feel benefited in more ways then one. I now have access to resources, ideas, and support right at my finger tips. For example- Recently I have been working on updating and improving my resume. With a few clicks on the CincyNanny Forum I was able to get help and suggestions from other nannies. I am able to join and organize play-dates. P, and I have already been to a few. I am excited to become more involved and continue connecting with amazing nannies in the area.
7. What is something in your life (separate from your Nanny position), that is affecting your life in a positive way, and therefore affecting the children in your care?
Family is very important to me, especially my mother. I am very close to her as she is also my best friend and influences me in many ways. Just as I have become apart of the girls' family they have also become apart of mine. Occasionaly we pop in on my mom for a visit. The girls are now even calling her Grandma Karen- that drives her crazy! My mother has enjoyed dinners with us, celebrated the girls' birthdays, and has even watched them for me a few times. Another thing that is important to me is volunteering. My love for helping people and enjoyment of volunteering has spilled over to the girls. J, the oldest, understands the most. Everytime the commercial of abused pets come on she starts crying and asks if we can help them too. All the girls love to help me write letters, make cards, color pictures, and mail packages to our deployed troops.
8. What is a goal for the future?
I enjoy being a nanny, however I do want to go back to school. Of course, I want to stay in a child related field. I love children and enjoy working with them. It truly is rewarding. I would like to study early childhood education- one day being able to teach. I would love if I was able to continue nannying while attending classes and studying. I want to have a family of my own one day. I say lets have a big family, maybe 7, and the response I get is lets just see how we do with one first.
9. How do you refresh/re-coop/prepare from and for your Nanny position?
First of all I, of course, get organzied- make a schedule, prepare activities, gather supplies- This allows me to feel prepared and ready for the next day. Then I spend a little time for me- 15 minutes in a hot tub of water relaxes me. Sometimes I will read a few chapters of a book or close my eyes listening to music. Usually there is a few of our regular shows on television that I enjoy watching.- Perhaps addicted to! Then I make sure to get a goodnight sleep and have breakfast in the morning. From experience, I have learned that if I don't get enough sleep the night before I am dragging through the day and a bit cranky. I also have learned that if I don't have breakfast in the morning, by midmorning, I am starving and usually end up with a headache, which is not fun for any of us.
10. What changes would you like to see changed OR questions to be answered in the Nanny Industry?
I wish there was more information on nanny taxes. I wouldn't even know where to begin- is it better to be paid under the table or have nanny taxes taken out? If it is better to have nanny taxes taken out what is the process? What do I need to do? What does the family need to do? So many questions! I would also like to see more affordable nanny health insurance available. There is one good change that is already in progress. I am excited for the growth of CincyNanny and other nanny communities; hopefully more nannies will become involved and we can continue to support one another.
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Closing Notes...
Thanks so much to Amy for sharing your thoughts and experiences!
If you enjoyed reading Amy's thoughts, please leave positive comments for this Nanny!
Friday, April 9, 2010
High5 Friday: Ways to Respect Your Toddler
I have picked up the book, again, Happiest Toddler on the Block, by Dr. Harvey Karp. So many nuggets of opportunities in these pages. One thought that Dr. Karp shares is that "your child can live quite happily without the things she craves, but what she can't be happy without is your love and respect." He also shares that "Respect is a power as nurturing as love." The information used in this post can be found in Chapter 9: "Respect and Rewards" of the above-mentioned book. Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Workshop Wednesday => The Five Love Languages of Children, Part #1

Tuesday, April 6, 2010
[Quick Tip Tuesday] Simply Hooked


Monday, April 5, 2010
Congrats to CincyNanny's Heather McKinley!!!
We are so proud of our very own, Heather McKinley, who's inspiring essay has won the Regarding Nannies INA Conference Scholarship! Jump over to Regarding Nannies today to read her essay! Thank you Heather for joining our community and for being a part of this Professional Nanny world.
Friday, April 2, 2010
High5 Friday: Questions Deserving Answers
A few weeks back, I read the Regarding Nannies Blog (a staple on my resource list) post "Nitty Gritty Interview Questions" by Glenda Propst. After a year of counseling Nannies and Families in Cincinnati about their frustrations, confusion, and mis-communication... I am realizing just how important it is to take ample time and consideration before accepting a position with "the perfect family".- How would you describe the "ideal nanny"?
- Define the Nanny's role in your family.
- Children's names and ages? Interests and hobbies?
- What is your discipline plan or child rearing philosophy?
- What values do you want taught and reinforced in your children?
- Please describe your home and the are where you live.
- What did your family like most about your previous nanny? What did you like least?
- Without naming your former nanny, what were your best and worst nanny experiences − i.e., good or bad trip, uncomfortable situation, great way she handled something?
- May I speak to your previous nannies about their experiences with your family and children?
- What’s your position on videotaping?
- Do you have pets? Plan on getting pets?
- What religion are you, and how do you expect your nanny to participate in child's religious teaching?
- Do you see this as a long or short term position?
- Do you travel? Will your nanny be expected to travel with you?
- What are Nanny’s responsibilities as they relate to children?
- Are non-child-related tasks and responsibilities a part of the job you want performed?
- Laundry? For children? For parents?
- Who makes and changes the children’s bedding?
- Who plans the meals, cooks, and shops for groceries?
- Will the nanny cook for the children, parents, or family?
- Who purchases the children’s clothes, toys, and supplies?
- What financial arrangements will be made to facilitate the shopping?
- Is there other household help?
- Will I be expected to take the children to doctor appointments, music lessons, classes
- Is a car provided? Is the car available for the nanny’s personal use, or only for use while she is on duty? Will the vehicle be shared with the parents?
- What hours and days do you want a Nanny to work? Are these flexible, or does 8-6 mean precisely 8-6?
- Will your nanny be expected to work evenings and weekends?
- What is the daily schedule of a typical day?
- How might your schedule change?
- Who makes the children's schedule? (Nanny, family, combined?)
- Can your nanny have guests? Such as age appropriate children for play dates?
- Are there amy rooms that are off limits to children or nanny?
- Do the children have allergies or special dietary needs?
- What's your procedure for spontaneous activities? Do you want Nanny to check in with you, leave a note, phone message, or is this not an issue?
- Do you want a daily record kept (what happened today)?
- Will there be a nanny workstation − desk, area for files, bulletin board, monthly calendar, computer with high-speed Internet connection
- Communication is extremely important for nannies and their employers. Are you willing to meet with me on a regular basis so we can discuss how things are going?
- What salary range and benefits are you offering? Weekly pay? Salary or hourly? If hourly, is there a guaranteed minimum salary?
- How often will I be paid, and by what method?
- If I agree to work x number of hours a week for x amount of pay,will I be paid extra for any time over that amount?
- What is the rate for overtime, overnight or weekend work, or 24-hour duty?
- May I choose my vacation times, or do I take my vacation when you take yours?
- What is the pay rate for me traveling with your family?
- Taxes?
- Health insurance?
- IRA?
- Retirement benefits?
- Paid Holidays?
- Work holidays?
- Professional days?
- Childcare related classes and conferences?
- Gym membership?
- Will you provide me with a cell phone or pager, or will you pay my monthly bill if I get one for myself?
- Paid sick days? How many?
- What is your backup childcare plan if I am sick or on vacation?
- I’d like to spend some time with your children before I make a decision; is this ok with you?
- Are you willing to sign a work agreement with me that includes a trial period? (2 weeks, 1 month, 60 days, 90 days)
- Will I receive an evaluation from you, and raises on a yearly or bi-yearly basis?
- Will I receive severance pay if I am terminated early?
- Will your nanny receive a raise when you have another baby, or extra pay for extra children.
- If Nanny uses her car, will you pay costs for insurance, maintenance and gas? How is your nanny covered by insurance?