Friday, April 30, 2010

High5 Friday: Great Ideas for Teacher Appreciation Week

Next week is "Teacher Appreciation Week" - May 3-7. One of my favorite teachers is my husband's Aunt Mary. She is the most classic example of the teacher - organized, sweet, patient, loves children... always seems put together and in control. Each year at our family Christmas "gift" exchange (the white elephant type), you always wonder who is going to receive Mary's box of recycled teacher gifts. There is always something with a bright red apple, something that says "#1 teacher", usually some type of lotion that is not pleasant to smell and of course the random object with a cartoon character on it. While I am sure that the children happily gave their teacher these gifts, Mary is left with no purpose for these pointless gifts but save them up and to pass them on to us and get the yearly laugh.

As Nannies we may be assisting parents this year - whether shopping, coloring or wrapping these gifts to send on to school. Let's give some gifts Aunt Mary would be proud of!

High5: Great Ideas for Teacher Appreciation Week

5. Something Green
Most women love to receive flowers! Think about wrapping up a single rose or a gerbera daisy. Something happy and bright, to set on her desk this spring. A small plant is also a great idea to add some life and to her workspace.

4. Something Artistic
Just like mothers, teachers would love something sentimental from a student - if it's made with love and thought, that will definitely shine through.

3. Something Musical
Have the child choose their favorite songs and burn her a CD - hopefully they choose some that she can bear to listen to rather than Barney's "I love you". Let them write or draw on the outside. Personal and unique! - - I think this is the one we are going to do!

2. Something Monetary
Gift cards always spend! Think of something this teacher would love and make it thoughtful! Food is always a good choice.

1. Something Thankful
The cheapest and sometimes most appreciate gift are words of thanks. Ask your child to write a quick note, or have them tell you what to write. This will surely be a keeper!

For all things "Teacher Appreciation" visit this website!

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Workshop Wednesday => The Five Love Languages of Children - Part #4


April Series Overview: The Five Love Languages of Children
This workshop comes from the book, Five Love Languages of Children by Dr. Gary Chapman. Thanks to Anderson Hills for sharing the information in a workshop format. This is based on a biblical idea that God loves his people in five ways, and therefore we give and receive love in these ways too.

Have you Read?

The Five Love Languages of Children, Part #4 - Discipline and the Five Love Languages

Keeping a child's "love tank" full will have an impact on his or her behavior. A child who misbehaves usually has a need for something. Being able to recognize your child's love language, you are able to address these needs and address it.

According to the book and workshop, In order to respect a child's love language and discipline (train) with love, do not select their love language as a method of discipline. For example using condemning words with a child's love language being words of affirmation, words will will communicate not only that you are displeased with their behavior but that you do not love the child. If love language is quality time - do use isolation as form of punishment. If it's physical touch, don't withhold hugs or respond in a physically negative way.

5 Methods That Can Be Used to Effectively Discipline With Love

1. Make a Request.
This sends 3 important, nonverbal messages to the child.
  • That you respect his feelings
  • That you realize that he has a brain and is able to form opinions
  • That you expect him to take responsibility for his own behavior
2. Issue a Command when making a Request fails. Issuing commands are more effective when use infrequently and not as the main method for controlling behavior

3. Gentle Physical Manipulation. This is especially effective with young children who often do things that are not necessarily wrong but not to your preference. For example, be careful not to confuse negativity with defiance. When a 2 year-old says, "No!" he is demonstrating a normal stage of development, where he begins to separate psychologically from his parents. If you make a request and he says, "No", move to a command. If he still says, "No", you might be inclined to punish him, but instead gently guide him to what you need him to do. If he resists, it's defiance, so act accordingly, but most often child will go along with your gentle physical manipulation. He was just practicing his independence.

4. Punishment
This is the most negative way of training a child, and the most difficult because:
  • The punishment must fit the crime since children have such a wrong sense of fairness
  • The punishment has to be appropriate for each particular child
  • Punishment is often administered inconsistently according to the punisher's mood at the time. When you are feeling good, you tend to be more lenient than when you have had a bad day
  • Punishment when used primarily as a means of discipline provokes needless anger, and causes the child to develop passive-aggressive attitudes and behaviors.
  • If you have to punish the child, give her a conscious expression of love in her primary love language.

5. Behavior Modification
If the child shows no remorse for his behavior, there is the next step. It utilizes three components:
  • Positive Reinforcement (giving a reward good behavior)
  • Negative Reinforcement (taking something away)
  • Punishment (removing the child/isolation)
Behavior modification is best used only for recurring specific problems for which a child shows no remorse. Overuse causes feelings of being unloved because behavior modification is completely based on conditions. This results in a "I have to give to get" attitude and teaches the child how to manipulate authority figures.

Visit the Five Love Languages website, here.

I hope that you enjoyed. Workshop Wednesday will be back again sometime soon!

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

[Quick Tip Tuesday] Sand Bag


Quick Tip: Sand Bag

Create a toy bag for the parks with sand! Last year I went on a search for a plastic bag/basket like I had when I was a kid... I had no luck after 10 stores. The boys' mom picked up this mesh laundry bag with a pull-string close, and it has worked out just great! Most important feature - the majority of the sand stays at the park and not in my car! Bring enough toys to share and you have an instant play date.

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

High5 Friday: Preparing for INA Conference!

Last year was my first Professional Nanny conference experience. I had found INA earlier in the year after doing some online research. I had thought about conference, but was in the middle of house hunting, and not sure that I could do both. I kept my options open, but it wasn't looking to good - as we were under contract on a fixer-upper. Turns out that the fixer-upper that I had fallen in love went to auction and weren't able to make the deal we felt comfortable with. The day it all fell through, I said to my disappointed self - "FINE then, I am going to Dallas!" The next day I asked off, registered, bought my ticket, and became an INA member. THERE! I had to make some good out of this situation. I jumped in a little unsure of what was ahead of me. My husband was on board, he is so supportive of anything that will bring growth personal, spiritual, or professional. I wondered what my employers would think when I tell them that I had actually asked off for a "Nanny Conference". Though they are very generous, I felt it unfair to ask for financial help from them. To my surprise - after getting on the International Nanny Association website, they offered to reimburse me for the conference fee and were so excited about the opportunity.

I love to travel. I even enjoy traveling alone - exploring a new city and relying on my body's compass. I'm the person that is over-prepared, printing documents, usually organized in a folder. I make sure to bring along the necessities including a sweater, cash tips, comfortable shoes. Since I was headed to a conference, I also made sure to pack a notebook, good pens, etc. But, unlike my normal traveling adventures, I was a little ill-prepared. I kinda entered conference like a deer in headlights, knowing no one nor the culture.

INA has done a wonderful job providing details including Plan Ahead Details, Faqs, Fees, Agenda, Speakers, Sponsors and Exhibitors, etc. To see all this info, Click here!

I am so excited that this year that I have newbie friends headed to conference from Cincinnati and elsewhere, I hope that this High5 might prepare you a little more that I was!

High5: Preparing for INA Conference

5. Raffle money
Each year, INA chooses a local organization that is making a difference in the lives of children. Nannies and industry leaders donate items to be raffled off at the end of conference. You will have the opportunity to buy raffle tickets for $1 and will then drop them into the prize you hope to win. You may give as little or as much as you feel obliged. This year, INA has selected The Imagine Bus Project that address the lack of visual arts programming in K-12 grades by providing arts education to underserved children and youth with local school districts, juvenile detention centers, after school programs, and community based youth programs and community based youth organizations throughout the bay area. All raffle proceeds will go to this organization. You may also donate art supplies, more info here under "Conference Charity".

4. Picture of your Kids
Meeting other Nannies at conference is wonderful! I was so excited to see people so passionate about the industry and individuals that they worked with. I so wished I had brought a picture of my boys to share. Many Nannies would bring a small wallet size to slip inside their name badge, that way they could turn it around and show off their kids. I thought this was a great idea!

3. Info. cards
You will be surprised how many relationships that will be made quickly! We share so much in common with this group. You will want to stay in touch with these Nannies, agencies, training schools, and industry leaders. It is a good idea to bring a good supply of business cards - with your contact info. on it. You may want to include a photo or logo, as to spark your contacts memory of who you are. Support groups may want to also have a card with their information!

2. Expandable suitcase
I had no idea all that I would bring home with me. Welcome Bags are given to each attendee! I unfortunately had to throw some things away and get creative with my packing to bring things home! Plus if you win a raffle prize, that has to fit too! Think about bringing an expandable suitcase if you have one, or leaving "room to grow" in your bag.

1. Expandable heart
Of all things at conference, I was least expecting to bring home so many relationships. Who would think that a few short days, would open up my world and heart to so many individuals all across America! I was certainly glad for Facebook, as I must now have over 7o Nanny connections! Open your heart to these long-distance friendships that will definitely enrich your lives.

Oh and by the way, 1 week after returning from conference, we found THE house THE day it came available on the market! We put in an offer that day, and signed the papers the end that month! I am thankful the way things worked out.... I know I was meant to go to conference.

Workshop Wednesday => The Five Love Languages of Children - Part #3


April Series Overview: The Five Love Languages of Children
This workshop comes from the book, Five Love Languages of Children by Dr. Gary Chapman. Thanks to Anderson Hills for sharing the information in a workshop format. This is based on a biblical idea that God loves his people in five ways, and therefore we give and receive love in these ways too.





Have you read?

The Five Love Languages of Children, Part #3 - How to Operate in Each of the Love Languages

There is a terminology in the book to describe how much love a child is receiving. It is said to keep their "love tank" full. Just a car will run low on gas, a love tank will need to be refilled over and over. The following are methods for filling a child's love tank, for each of the five love languages.

Words of Encouragement:
  • Be generous with praise when they do well
  • Make up a story with them as the hero
  • Describe what you like about them
  • Speak softly
  • Leave notes
  • Say "I love you"
  • Share a personal story with them
  • Honor them at a special meal
  • Ask their advice
Gift Giving:
  • Share your treasures with them
  • Wrap gifts for them, even projects, or rocks!
  • Give them space to display their things
  • Protect their property from others
  • Respect their property
  • Express gratitude for their every gift - even funny stories
  • Allow them to hold on to their writings
Acts of Service:
  • Serve them breakfast in bed
  • Fix their broken projects or toys
  • Ask them for help with a task
  • Give them regular chores and express gratitude for their completion
  • Pay attention to their bedroom environment, decorating and upgrading will be appreciated
  • Teach them to help with jobs around the room
  • Help them with assignments
  • Teach them to cook.
Quality Time and Attention:
  • Get down on their eye level and listen
  • If talking to a child and someone interrupts, say "Ill talk with you after I finish talking with _______ "
  • Plan mom-dates and dad-dates
  • Make time to chat after school, for walks and drives, shopping excursions
  • Serve make-believe 'tea parties'
  • Work with them on a project together
  • Read together and tell stories
Physical Touch and Closeness
  • Give "high fives" and pats on the back
  • Take time to tousle their hair
  • Give hugs as needed
  • Give piggybacks
  • Hold hands while walking
  • Sit close while reading
  • Share cuddles, snuggles and kisses
  • Stay "handy"
  • Work side by side
  • Give cuddly toys to play with or when sad
Visit the Five Love Languages website, here.

Check in next week, Part #4 - Discipline and the Five Love Languages

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

[Quick Tip Tuesday] Bathroom Diaper Station


Quick Tip: Bathroom Diaper Station

Set up diaper changing in the bathroom. This helps a child make the proper room association early on. Start by finding space to store a stack of diapers, baby powder, and diaper cream. I've used a basket, a shelf, and a drawer. Do this when the child in your care learns how to crawl. It's never too early to create this all important connection. I've used the diaper changing pad from the changing table or a bean bag type pillow for the child's head. One time I had an older infant crawl into the bathroom when he pooped to be changed. He did this all on his own and I was amazed! Then you can add a potty chair later. I also like to change toddlers standing up once they have good balance. They usually hold onto something like the clean lid of the toilet. Have one bathroom station for each floor of the house. Bye bye changing table and the struggle to get the child to lay down.
Trisha is a full-time Professional Nanny in Anderson. She is dedicated to her family and enjoys her days with B and P. She joined CincyNanny to befriend other Nannies and network for playdates. Trisha is very excited to be moving into a new apartment in a few weeks and is volunteering on the "cincynannyPALOOZA" planning committee.

Thanks Nanny Trisha for sharing this awesome tip! We look forward to hearing more from you and the other CincyNannies!

Friday, April 16, 2010

High5 Friday: Connecting Through Online Communities

There are some amazing resources available for Nannies to meet and connect - here in Cincinnati and nationally. But, what should you know before posting?


High5: Connecting Through Online Communities

5. Protect Anonymity
It is important as you begin sharing online that you are thoughtful of your families' privacy. This may seem obvious, but not all Nannies have used this guideline. Share pictures only with permission! Most families may not care if you share a picture here or there, but it is respectful to ask. Keep names private; terms like "MomBoss" and "DadBoss" are often used as well as their shorthand "MB" and "DB". For the children, some Nannies make up nicknames like "Princess" or "Buddy" or simply use their first initial - "B" for Brian, etc. Obviously addresses, phone numbers should never be posted online, but have you thought about some of the not so obvious things, like occupations, affiliations, companies, etc? Be careful. You never know who is stalking online and there is no reason to share personal information about the family.

4. Resist the Urge to Vent
It is always awesome to find places where Nannies are gathering, whether it be in person or online. Our careers allow us to interact with very few adults on a daily basis. It is exciting to finally find like-minded professionals who can share our highs and our lows. Forums are a great place to read experiences and ask questions. As you connect, resist the urge to share a negative situation in the heat of the moment. Wait until you have had 24 hours to think about how to word your question in a constructive way. Personally, if I see drama (for the sake of drama) on a discussion board, I stay FAR AWAY from the conversation. I may choose to message the person privately, if I feel I can help. I realize that many people may stop by to read the colorful posts only to roll their eyes and shake their heads. I don't want to be associated with it.

3. Be Un-offendable
Just like email and text can be a confusing way to communicate about important things, online social networking can be harmful. Often times with sarcasm it's hard to "read between the lines". Someone may be trying to help your situation, but.... really, are not. There are so many points of view! Take everything with a grain of salt and think like a duck....let it all roll off your back.

2. Share
Live out the golden rule... "Do unto others as you'd have done unto you". Use this opportunity to share your knowledge and expertise. There are great observations and unique experiences that you can bring to the community - nationally and locally. Please give feedback and encouragement. I was challenged at last year's INA Conference to "give what I have to give". For each Nanny this is a unique set qualities. While it is easy to read over a discussion without commenting, think of the validation and encouragement a quick note would be for them.

1. Keep Up Your Guard
Just as you protect the family, protect yourself. How much is too much too share? I recently have reduced my self-exposure of my life on Facebook. You see, a year and a half ago, I got an iPhone and updating my "status" in seconds was fun and entertaining. I also enjoyed (enjoy) reading others' statuses. I had an instance where a casual friend asked me a very personal question, one that I had no idea how she would know. I realized I must have hinted on Facebook, and turns out I was correct. It kinda rocked my world and I realized I either needed to lighten my friend load, or lighten my status depth. Don't get me wrong, I still love Facebook and I am on daily - reading, connecting, inviting, just now I am more aware. I came across Oversharers, tagline "when people feel the need to tell us too much." This website/twitter feed pokes fun at the people who are sharing way too info. on social networks. It's humorous, but the point is you never know who is reading along! There is a line and you should make a decision where your line is and keep to that boundary. Set up your privacy options and as Ezinearticles.com's article (How to Use Social Networking Online) says "recognize that whatever you do, and say, can and is instantly broadcast around the world!" By the way, have you ever "googled" yourself? Prospective employers may be doing just that.

Here are a few resources...

This is an online national discussion board open to all Nannies, since 1996. A wealth of information has been answered a few times over, so you may find your answer in the posts without even asking. Open for public viewing.

Current threads:
  • Free Courses Deal for Week of the Young Child
  • Nanny Support Groups - Community Service, Spring 2010
  • Poll: How Much Do Spend on Gifts for Your Charges
This forum has over 800 "islanders"! Nannies share blogs, posts, events, private messages, pictures, and can format their own page. There are currently 30 groups to join - such as INA, Nannies Who Knit, Boston Nannies, CincyNanny, Nannypaolooza, and so on. This is a Ning forum, so if you are already part of a Ning, then joining will be easy. Main page is open for public viewing, but requests a person to join/sign in.

Current threads:
  • Child Car Seats...(rear-facing vs. forward-facing)
  • How Should Nannies Dress for Work?
  • Unpaid Vacation
Private forum for local Cincinnati Nannies only. This is also a Ning forum and functions like Nanny Island. Nannies can share blogs, posts, events, private messages, pictures, and format your own page. This was created after feedback that our Nannies felt uncomfortable posting info. on our Facebook group page, not sure who was could access all the info. they were sharing. That is why all who are invited must be known and be approved. Currently 21 Nannies are active - sharing ideas, encouragement and coordinating local meet-ups. If you are a Nanny in the Cincinnati area and would like an invite, please email gretaschraer(at)mac(dot) com.

Current threads:
  • Resume Help
  • Quick Tips
  • Playdate: Sunrock Farms
I hope this has been an encouragement to take advantage of the tools that have been created for you! Use wisdom and have fun!

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Workshop Wednesday => The Five Love Languages of Children - Part #2


April Series Overview: The Five Love Languages of Children
This workshop comes from the book, Five Love Languages of Children by Dr. Gary Chapman. Thanks to Anderson Hills for sharing the information in a workshop format. This is based on a biblical idea that God loves his people in five ways, and therefore we give and receive love in these ways too.

Have you read...

The Five Love Languages of Children - How to Spot A Child's Love Language

It was mentioned in the workshop that it is tough to spot a love language in a child until around age 5, but you still may pick up clues. Use the following list to become fluent in your child's language. This may be an adventure of trial an error!

Here are some ways to help...

1. Observe how a child expresses love to you.
2. Observe how a child expresses love to others.
3. Listen to what a child requests most often.
4. Listen to a child's most frequent complaints.
5. Give child a choice between two love languages, and see what they choose.

Observing the Five Love Languages in Action

Words of Encouragement:
  • Makes comments like, "Thanks for helping", "I love you", or "You're the best daddy."
  • Enthusiastic greetings and farewells
  • Loves to talk to you on the phone
  • Keen to share news and hear yours
  • Fishes for a compliment
  • Might be jealous of others being praised more than her
  • Gives compliments
  • Will write cards and letters, and reads the ones she gets closely
Gift Giving:
  • Takes an interest in other people's gifts
  • Makes little gifts for others
  • May be critical of others lack of giving
  • Will wrap and present presents carefully
  • Will be hurt if their gift isn't appreciated
  • Will value and display gifts
  • Always knows what she want for her birthday or Christmas
  • Remembers and keep presents forever, even though used infrequently
  • Give hints about presents
  • Will be profoundly grieved if they loose a possession
Acts of Service
  • Helps without being asked - just a nice thing to do
  • May be very disappointed if you fail to do something for him that he expected you to do
  • May be short on words but long on actions and activity
  • Will appreciate assistance
  • Loves to do jobs on a list
  • Will expect appreciation
  • Will tell you what she has done
  • Love you to join in his activities
  • Will be disappointed when others fail to help or participate
Quality time and attention
  • Will love going out with you
  • Will want you to play with you
  • Will perform for an audience
  • May annoy to get a response, including stirring up trouble with others
  • Likes doing things together
  • Enjoys talking to you
  • Engages you with her eyes
  • May try and monopolize you
  • May compete for friendship
  • Could feign sickness to get attention
  • May be less of a "self-starter", requiring motivation from others
  • May create crisis to gain intervention
Physical closeness and touch
  • Enjoy cuddling, often
  • Likes playing rough and tumble games
  • Moody if hug-starved
  • Enjoys a massage or back scratch
  • Jumps into bed with you
  • Will take your hand even when she doesn't have to
  • May be inappropriate in his touching
  • Likes to cuddle soft toys
  • May lean on you
  • Will play physically close
  • May fiddle with laces, hair, etc.
  • Will prefer sitting on your lap to sitting next to you in an armchair
Visit the Five Love Languages website, here.

Check in next week, Part #3 - How to Operate in Each of the Love Languages
(Showing individual love that children long to receive)

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

[Quick Tip Tuesday] The UN-Messy Paint



Quick Tip: The UN-Messy Paint
If you have a young child, that you are you just introducing to art, water is the perfect paint! Use colored construction paper or even the sidewalk outside and let your kid go to town with a paint brush. This quick craft has virtually no clean up! We loved this last year!!

Monday, April 12, 2010

Meet Nanny Amy!

"Meet Nanny ________ (your name here) " is a blog posted every so often on CincyNanny. We have so many wonderful Nannies in our community, and we have the opportunity to get to know each other, learn from each other and challenge each other. You will see brand new Nannies and experienced Nannies. Temporary, night, part-time, and full-time Nannies. Nannies for multiples and children with unique challenges. We come from all over the Tri-state Cincinnati Area (Ohio, Indiana, & Kentucky). Though each of our jobs may look different, we have a shared passion that brings us together. Please think about sharing your story as a way to connect to the community, develop relationships, making us stronger individually and as a team.

Please note that no last names and other personal/contact information will be shared of the Nanny and Family in her care. Permission must be given by the family to share pictures of the kids and personal information about the family.

MEET NANNY AMY

1. What is your current Nanny Position?

I am currently a full-time nanny for a wonderful family in the Northern Kentucky area. The D Family! I care for 3 high energy girls. J, the oldest, just turned 9 years old this month and is in the third grade. She loves school and recently was invited to join the High Achievers Reading Club. She also plays basketball, sings in the choir, and was in the school play. A, the middle, is 6 years old and started Kindergarten this year. She has made the most improvement since I have been with the family. She is very outgoing and talkative. When she gets in trouble at school she tells me "it's just because I like to talk and the teacher doesn't like that." P, the youngest, is 4 years old and will start kindergarten this fall. She is a big cuddle bug, loves arts and crafts, and is one of the funniest little girls I know. Some of the things she says you would never expect to come from a 4 year olds mouth. My schedule is probably not as routine as most nannies. I always work 3 days a week including 1 night from 6:30pm to 8:30am and 2 days from 6:30am to 8:30pm. However, the days change from week to week and sometimes a work day for me may land on a weekend. The days I spend with the girls are long ones. On the days I work, right before bedtime is usually the first time the girls see their mother. My responsibilities are all related to the care of the girls. I make sure the older girls are up and ready for school, provide transportation to and from school as well as an occasional after-school activity, and provide a fun day for P, the youngest. During the day, I plan activities such as preschool work, art projects, play-time at the mall, story-time at the library, and when warmer weather comes around trips to the park and swimming. Oh, and of course more play-dates now that I have become apart of the CincyNanny Community. I also plan and prepare meals- breakfast, lunch, and dinner, help with homework, and give the girls baths. My housekeeping responsibilities are limited to making sure the girls and I pick up after ourselves. Occasionally I will run the dishwasher, wipe down the counters, and straighten up, but the primary focus of my job is always the girls.



2. How/Why did you decide to become a Nanny?

I didn't chose to be a nanny; the profession chose me and I learned I truly love working with children. I started caring for children first through babysitting jobs mostly for family, friends, and neighbors. Then around age 11 and for the next few years I worked for a local church's nursery caring for babies and younger children during service hours. This is where I met my first, nonrelation and no previous friendship, family. An actual real job. I remember being so excited! During my freshmen and sophmore years of high school, twice a week and most weekends, I cared for the family's 5 year old daughter, 3 year old son, and 6 month old baby girl. I was much more then just the babysitter. I remember doing my homework in the extra bedroom and hearing the kids outside the door waiting for me to finish up so we could play. I shared family dinners and celebrated many milestones. I trully became apart of the family. My last 2 years of high school I worked at a child care / preschool center. I started by floating around from room to room from one age group to another till I finally found the preschool room. I love working with preschoolers! By age 22 the nagging of my family to do something besides "wipe noses and butts" finally pressured me into taking a break from child care and get an office job. Yes I had normal hours, decent pay, and insurance, but something was missing. I was bored and the passion for my job was gone. Luckily the office job was a temp position ending around the same time that a family in my neighborhood was looking for an infant nanny. Of course I jumped all over it falling in love with Baby B. Even though the position didn't turn out to be long-term it lead me to find my current family that I have been with for almost 2 years.


3. Why are you passionate about working with children?

I am naturally a maternal person- I love children. I also love to teach and children are great students. They are always learning and very curious. I enjoy teaching a child something new, watching them try over and over again, and then finally seeing their face light up when they accomplish it. For example- A-the middle, finally learned how to snap her fingers. For weeks straight all I heard was snap snap snap... Miss Amy look what I can do (for the 10th time) snap snap snap. The other day, P-the youngest, blew her first bubble with bubble gum. It only lasted for a half of a second before her face was covered in gum, but it was worth seeing her face light up with excitment and then later hear her re-tell the story to her mom. Simple things to us, but mean the world to children. I am also excited how enthused the older sister, J, is about reading and learning; she loves school. I am also passionate about working with children, because they give me a new point of view on things. Children are so open minded, more understanding and forgiving then adults, and no matter how bad things seem the girls always give me a fresh look.


4. What is a misconception in your peers and/or family about the Nanny profession?

My family is always asking me "are you still babysitting for that family?" Sometimes I just want to scream- I am NOT a babysitter! I am a nanny; educated, experienced, and professional. I work along side the parents with a goal of raising physically, emotionally, and intellectually stable children. I feel as I am apart of the family, because I am, and have a genuine love for the children. I have also been told, many times, that I need to get a real job. In my opinion, providing care and education for children affects the future, so yes I do have a real job. Not to mention rewarding knowing that I am making a difference. The families I work for depend on me and trust me with their most precious gifts.


5. In what areas do you currently feel challenged?

I seem to always be challenged with one specific issue. I am a perfectinist. I like things organized and routined. Schedules, charts, lists, and post-it notes are my best friend. Structure is good for all children, but lets be honest things are not ever perfect with children. Which sometimes drives me crazy. With my current situation I am currently challenged with change. I have been stressed for the past few weeks thinking after this summer my current position was going to end. The youngest that I care for is going to be 5 years old this summer and start kindergarten this coming fall. I assumed the family would no longer need my services and stressed over bringing the issue up to the mother. I recently came up with the courage to speak with her and yes she would still need me, but there is a very good chance my hours will be reduced. It really wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. She was very understanding and told me to do what was best for me. However, I am still faced with the challenge of making a decision that could lead to a lot of change in my life. I really love the girls, the whole family, and the mother makes me feel very comfortable. However, I am not sure if I can only work a few hours a day or a week. I have three options. One to stay with this family and let whatever happens happens. Two find a new family and move on. And three, which would be a really big change, my grandmother invited me to move to Florida living with her. I would still need a new job/family, but I would be away from home, couldn't visit my current family, and wouldn't have the support of Cincy Nanny. Change, I am just not very good at it.

6. What about CincyNanny has been a benefit to you?

I am so happy to have found the CincyNanny Community. I feel benefited in more ways then one. I now have access to resources, ideas, and support right at my finger tips. For example- Recently I have been working on updating and improving my resume. With a few clicks on the CincyNanny Forum I was able to get help and suggestions from other nannies. I am able to join and organize play-dates. P, and I have already been to a few. I am excited to become more involved and continue connecting with amazing nannies in the area.


7. What is something in your life (separate from your Nanny position), that is affecting your life in a positive way, and therefore affecting the children in your care?

Family is very important to me, especially my mother. I am very close to her as she is also my best friend and influences me in many ways. Just as I have become apart of the girls' family they have also become apart of mine. Occasionaly we pop in on my mom for a visit. The girls are now even calling her Grandma Karen- that drives her crazy! My mother has enjoyed dinners with us, celebrated the girls' birthdays, and has even watched them for me a few times. Another thing that is important to me is volunteering. My love for helping people and enjoyment of volunteering has spilled over to the girls. J, the oldest, understands the most. Everytime the commercial of abused pets come on she starts crying and asks if we can help them too. All the girls love to help me write letters, make cards, color pictures, and mail packages to our deployed troops.


8. What is a goal for the future?

I enjoy being a nanny, however I do want to go back to school. Of course, I want to stay in a child related field. I love children and enjoy working with them. It truly is rewarding. I would like to study early childhood education- one day being able to teach. I would love if I was able to continue nannying while attending classes and studying. I want to have a family of my own one day. I say lets have a big family, maybe 7, and the response I get is lets just see how we do with one first.


9. How do you refresh/re-coop/prepare from and for your Nanny position?

First of all I, of course, get organzied- make a schedule, prepare activities, gather supplies- This allows me to feel prepared and ready for the next day. Then I spend a little time for me- 15 minutes in a hot tub of water relaxes me. Sometimes I will read a few chapters of a book or close my eyes listening to music. Usually there is a few of our regular shows on television that I enjoy watching.- Perhaps addicted to! Then I make sure to get a goodnight sleep and have breakfast in the morning. From experience, I have learned that if I don't get enough sleep the night before I am dragging through the day and a bit cranky. I also have learned that if I don't have breakfast in the morning, by midmorning, I am starving and usually end up with a headache, which is not fun for any of us.


10. What changes would you like to see changed OR questions to be answered in the Nanny Industry?

I wish there was more information on nanny taxes. I wouldn't even know where to begin- is it better to be paid under the table or have nanny taxes taken out? If it is better to have nanny taxes taken out what is the process? What do I need to do? What does the family need to do? So many questions! I would also like to see more affordable nanny health insurance available. There is one good change that is already in progress. I am excited for the growth of CincyNanny and other nanny communities; hopefully more nannies will become involved and we can continue to support one another.


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Closing Notes...


Thanks so much to Amy for sharing your thoughts and experiences!


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Friday, April 9, 2010

High5 Friday: Ways to Respect Your Toddler

I have picked up the book, again, Happiest Toddler on the Block, by Dr. Harvey Karp. So many nuggets of opportunities in these pages. One thought that Dr. Karp shares is that "your child can live quite happily without the things she craves, but what she can't be happy without is your love and respect." He also shares that "Respect is a power as nurturing as love." The information used in this post can be found in Chapter 9: "Respect and Rewards" of the above-mentioned book.

High5: Ways to Respect Your Toddler

5. With Your Eyes
"Smile, nod, make eye contact, then look down for a few seconds" before looking back. Make a connection of understanding.

4. With Your Body
"Sit kneel, or lean so that your face is slightly below your child's level. Lean forward, in the direction of your little one." Body language is a large part of communication!

3. With Your Ears
"Listen with interest, and without interrupting." This seems like a basic conversation rule, but how often do we feel that we have the more important words to share.

2. With Your Words
"Respond promptly. Repeat back. Ask permission to give advice (Do this even with your young toddler)."

1. With Your Tone
Though a toddler may not understand all of your words, or be calm enough to be listening, he or she will understand your respectful tone.

If you are a Nanny for young children, this book is a must read!

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Workshop Wednesday => The Five Love Languages of Children, Part #1

Welcome to our new series of posts, entitled "Workshop Wednesday"! Each month we will take a topic and dive a little deeper into the subject. I'll be sharing info. that I have learned through research, study and attending local and national events. Hope that you enjoy!

April Series Overview: The Five Love Languages of Children
This workshop comes from the book, Five Love Languages of Children by Dr. Gary Chapman. Thanks to Anderson Hills for sharing the information in a workshop format. This is based on a biblical idea that God loves his people in five ways, and therefore we give and receive love in these ways too.






The Five Love Languages of Children, Part 1 - Defining the 5 Love Languages...

1. Words of Affirmation
Words are powerful in word and the tone they were said. A person who has the language of Words of Affirmation needs to hear words of praise and encouragement.

2. Acts of Service
One expresses love by serving them. This language is for people that don't want to be told they are loved, but shown. Little acts of kindness are how they know that they are loved.

3. Touch
Physical, loving touch - like a hug, high five, holding hands, hand on the shoulder, pat on the back, kiss - is how they would feel love. These people would rather be touched or held than anything else.

4. Gifts
Express love by giving gifts. They feel most loved when someone has remembered them in a tangible way, and thought enough about them to give them something. This can be anything - flowers, cookies, crafts, all are treasured by one with this love language.

5. Quality Time
Expresses love by spending time together and time in quality conversation with undivided attention - often times with great eye contact while talking.

Visit the Five Love Languages website, here.

Check in next week, Part #2 - How to Spot a Child's Love Language.

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

[Quick Tip Tuesday] Simply Hooked

Quick Tip: Simply Hooked

I love my Carabiner clip on my keychain, especially for work. With 3 little sets of hands holding onto mine, the last thing I need to be doing is searching for keys deep in a bag... in a busy parking lot. I love to clip my keys onto my pants or bag as I am maneuvering with the boys. It also has come in handy when I need to hang extra things off of my backpack, again freeing hands for the boys.

I saw this "Mommy Clip" at Target, and since have noticed it hanging from strollers and shopping carts of many Moms and Nannies. What a great idea to keep a diaper bag or purse convenient but out of site.

The functions for these clips are endless. A great addition to the "Nanny Tool Belt"!



Click here to buy the Mommy Clip on Amazon.

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Monday, April 5, 2010

Congrats to CincyNanny's Heather McKinley!!!

We are so proud of our very own, Heather McKinley, who's inspiring essay has won the Regarding Nannies INA Conference Scholarship! Jump over to Regarding Nannies today to read her essay! Thank you Heather for joining our community and for being a part of this Professional Nanny world.

Friday, April 2, 2010

High5 Friday: Questions Deserving Answers

A few weeks back, I read the Regarding Nannies Blog (a staple on my resource list) post "Nitty Gritty Interview Questions" by Glenda Propst. After a year of counseling Nannies and Families in Cincinnati about their frustrations, confusion, and mis-communication... I am realizing just how important it is to take ample time and consideration before accepting a position with "the perfect family".

As Nannies we go through the process of interviewing alone. We must put on our armor to protect and fight for the position that we know we deserve. I use this image that is not quite the normal look of a Nanny. After all, we are for the most part a kind-hearted, loving, giving group of people. We live a job that often gives too much of ourselves. I love that about us, however, it's that same quality that can hurt our job, career, and personal future. As we interview, we must stand up for who we are and what we know that we are worth. There are many things that will be set in stone, day 1. We may not get a chance to renegotiate.

A former colleague of mine once said "The more information I have the better I can do my job." That rang so true with me at the time and has stayed with me over the years. I challenge you to take that idea with you as you meet with families. Get information - not just from their words, but the surroundings, the cues, the way they communicate with you and each other. Ask questions, be bold. See yourself as the one interviewing, not just the other way around. If you accept the position, you join a team. Do you fit?

As I write below, I will quote questions given by the Regarding Nannies post (bullet pointed). I strongly encourage you to jump over to read it in it's entirety. Even if you are not currently interviewing, print their post and keep it with your resume. Think of it as your shield as you go out to claim what you need. Know who you are and what you will and will not settle for ahead of time. Then, stand your ground.

High5: Questions Deserving Answers

5. Are We a Match?
I have often told Nannies that finding a good family match, is like finding a spouse. There will be hard times, there will be great times. What we are looking for is a bond that is built on trust, communication, and common goals. In the case of a Nanny position - the well-being, growth, love and care of the children. A seasoned Nanny will know how they have handled difficulties in the past. A newer Nanny may due herself service to think about how she may answer some of the questions before asking another party. Nannies should star some situations they are not willing to take on.
  • How would you describe the "ideal nanny"?
  • Define the Nanny's role in your family.
  • Children's names and ages? Interests and hobbies?
  • What is your discipline plan or child rearing philosophy?
  • What values do you want taught and reinforced in your children?
  • Please describe your home and the are where you live.
  • What did your family like most about your previous nanny? What did you like least?
  • Without naming your former nanny, what were your best and worst nanny experiences − i.e., good or bad trip, uncomfortable situation, great way she handled something?
  • May I speak to your previous nannies about their experiences with your family and children?
  • What’s your position on videotaping?
  • Do you have pets? Plan on getting pets?
  • What religion are you, and how do you expect your nanny to participate in child's religious teaching?
  • Do you see this as a long or short term position?
  • Do you travel? Will your nanny be expected to travel with you?
5. Just How Much Housekeeping?
The term "light housekeeping" is often used in the Nanny world. Sometimes, it is also worded "only duties that have to do with the children". This is a normal expectation of families, however, each household has it's own personality. It is our responsibility to get down to it... to figure out what is meant. If a vague statement is given to you, gently request a clearer answer. To save a lot of hassle, you could request a detailed list written out as part of the contract. As the children grow and the job changes, updates can be made with both parties. This may seem petty, but I have seen it be a area of dissension.
  • What are Nanny’s responsibilities as they relate to children?
  • Are non-child-related tasks and responsibilities a part of the job you want performed?
  • Laundry? For children? For parents?
  • Who makes and changes the children’s bedding?
  • Who plans the meals, cooks, and shops for groceries?
  • Will the nanny cook for the children, parents, or family?
  • Who purchases the children’s clothes, toys, and supplies?
  • What financial arrangements will be made to facilitate the shopping?
  • Is there other household help?
  • Will I be expected to take the children to doctor appointments, music lessons, classes
  • Is a car provided? Is the car available for the nanny’s personal use, or only for use while she is on duty? Will the vehicle be shared with the parents?
3. Easy-going and Flexible vs. Consistent?
Many times parents and Nannies use these words that sound very positive. Who doesn't want to work with someone who isn't flexible, right? The problem may come when a family asks you to be too flexible with your time, last minute, or without pay. You may find that employers describe themselves as "easy-going". I hate to say it but we all want to see ourselves "easy-going"... and we are, until.... well, you will know it when it comes. That button you may have pushed, you didn't know was there. That seemingly unimportant task that is now reason your position may end. Don't presume.... instead, ask questions!
  • What hours and days do you want a Nanny to work? Are these flexible, or does 8-6 mean precisely 8-6?
  • Will your nanny be expected to work evenings and weekends?
  • What is the daily schedule of a typical day?
  • How might your schedule change?
  • Who makes the children's schedule? (Nanny, family, combined?)
  • Can your nanny have guests? Such as age appropriate children for play dates?
  • Are there amy rooms that are off limits to children or nanny?
  • Do the children have allergies or special dietary needs?
  • What's your procedure for spontaneous activities? Do you want Nanny to check in with you, leave a note, phone message, or is this not an issue?
2. How Will We Communicate?
Parents and Nannies that see this as a priority will be headed to success in the relationship. We are all busy, but taking the time to do daily, quarterly, yearly methods of communication will insure stability for the children. Daily check-ins will save misunderstandings and frustration. All conflict should be handled face to face without the children and be done in a timely manner.
  • Do you want a daily record kept (what happened today)?
  • Will there be a nanny workstation − desk, area for files, bulletin board, monthly calendar, computer with high-speed Internet connection
  • Communication is extremely important for nannies and their employers. Are you willing to meet with me on a regular basis so we can discuss how things are going?
1. The Money...
Yes, I have saved the best, uh...the worst, for last. Money - paycheck, benefits, times off, taxes, etc - is probably the most difficult thing to talk about between Nannies and their employers. If you are like me, you grow to love the kids in your care and become close with family as well. That is why it's best to do as much of the ground work before you get emotionally attached. "It's not personal, it's business." Before you interview, do your research on what a Nanny should be paid in your area for this type of position. Know the benefits of being paid legally - write down your must haves and don't settle just because the parents seem great and the kids are adorable. This is your job, and you want it to last.
  • What salary range and benefits are you offering? Weekly pay? Salary or hourly? If hourly, is there a guaranteed minimum salary?
  • How often will I be paid, and by what method?
  • If I agree to work x number of hours a week for x amount of pay,will I be paid extra for any time over that amount?
  • What is the rate for overtime, overnight or weekend work, or 24-hour duty?
  • May I choose my vacation times, or do I take my vacation when you take yours?
  • What is the pay rate for me traveling with your family?
  • Taxes?
  • Health insurance?
  • IRA?
  • Retirement benefits?
  • Paid Holidays?
  • Work holidays?
  • Professional days?
  • Childcare related classes and conferences?
  • Gym membership?
  • Will you provide me with a cell phone or pager, or will you pay my monthly bill if I get one for myself?
  • Paid sick days? How many?
  • What is your backup childcare plan if I am sick or on vacation?
  • I’d like to spend some time with your children before I make a decision; is this ok with you?
  • Are you willing to sign a work agreement with me that includes a trial period? (2 weeks, 1 month, 60 days, 90 days)
  • Will I receive an evaluation from you, and raises on a yearly or bi-yearly basis?
  • Will I receive severance pay if I am terminated early?
  • Will your nanny receive a raise when you have another baby, or extra pay for extra children.
  • If Nanny uses her car, will you pay costs for insurance, maintenance and gas? How is your nanny covered by insurance?
I hope that I have overloaded you with thought as to scare you into preparation, ha ha. There is so much that can be avoided with pre-thought. And if you know me at all, I cannot leave this post without saying.... GET IT ALL IN WRITING!

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